I had a small breakthrough last week which led to the birth of my new mantra: It’s going to be hard, but I can do it. During a conversation with my husband, he helped me realize that I have always believed that happiness should just happen, and that if it didn’t, then there was something wrong with me. For some reason it never occurred to me that happiness was something I would have to work at. Of course it seems obvious now, but I just never saw it that way before. This led to the realization that I think this way about a lot of things. And that I talk myself out of A LOT because I focus too much on how hard everything is going to be – how much work I will have to put in – which eventually leads to the “I can’ts”. So I decided to take that bad habit and flip it on its head. I’m used to telling myself it’s going to be hard, so I’m building on that ingrained habit and adding the positive twist – but I can do it! It’s been almost a week with my new mantra and I’m already noticing a huge difference. Not only am I not shying away from things, but I’m also seeing things in a more positive light.
I also started reading the book Flow by Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi, which is all about learning how to control your consciousness to discover true happiness. The timing couldn’t be better.
I hope this postcard helps whoever receives it, as much as it has helped me.